As a woman of definite ideas, articulation, and confidence, building my speaking business seemed like a natural progression. However, a hidden struggle emerged—one that echoed the messaging of my past. Growing up in churches, I was inadvertently taught to trust the voices of men, with women's opinions relegated to the background. This upbringing, coupled with the concept of female submission, created a deep-seated belief that my own strong ideas were somehow wrong.

Even though I relished debates and arguing my point, the challenge arose when it came to listening to others. I found myself doubting my perspective, especially when expressed strongly by individuals I respected. The echo of societal conditioning lingered, making me question whether my voice was truly valid. The journey to trusting my own voice has involved unlearning these ingrained beliefs. Breaking free from the notion that holding disparate viewpoints is acceptable allowed me to realise the strength in my opinions. I learned that it's okay to disagree, to hold a different opinion, and to do so with conviction.

The patriarchal structures in my early life attempted to confine me to a specific lane, reinforcing the idea that my voice should be muffled. However, I've come to understand that standing firm in my beliefs, even when they differ from others, is not only acceptable but crucial to my authenticity.

Expressing my viewpoints, I've encountered dismissive reactions, sometimes disguised as jokes. Men have quipped that my disagreement meant I was wrong. However, I've learned to stand my ground, asserting that my perspective is valid and deserving of respect. Being okay with being dismissed or mocked has become a liberating realisation. Not everyone will resonate with my perspective, and that's perfectly fine. It's a revelation that has allowed me to turn away from those who don't align with those who truly need to hear my voice.



We've all been conditioned to doubt the validity of our voices, to question the truth, power, and strength within them. Yet, every voice is valid, shaped by a lifetime of experiences, learnings, and facing life's challenges. My perspective is my truth, and it holds value, even if others choose to dismiss it.

While I continue to learn from others, staying grounded in my beliefs remains paramount. My voice not only helps me make sense of my life but also sets the direction for where I want to go. It is both a personal journey and a responsibility to share my insights, preventing others from making the same mistakes and offering them a different lens through which to view life.

Trusting my voice is a lifelong journey—one that involves constant self-reflection and growth. It's about embracing the power within, recognising the validity of my unique perspective, and fostering a space where diverse voices can coexist harmoniously.