In Western philosophy and psychology, there's a longstanding tradition of separating cognition (head) and emotion (heart). This approach creates a distinct division between cognitive and non-cognitive ways of knowing. Such separation not only shapes our understanding of knowledge but also influences our perception of human behaviour, especially in terms of gender roles and emotional expression.

One prominent aspect of this separation is how it manifests in societal expectations and stereotypes, particularly regarding gender. Women, for instance, have often been labelled as 'too emotional' and are accused of thinking with their heart rather than their head. This stereotype implies that emotional responses are less valid or reliable than logical ones. On the other hand, men are traditionally associated with cognitive, logical thinking, which is frequently held up as the norm or the 'correct' way to approach problem-solving and decision-making.

This dichotomy is not just a theoretical concept but has real-world implications. In my research into the intersection of bias and shame, I've found that the way we think (cognition) and the way we feel (emotion) are deeply intertwined. Our biases, which are cognitive processes, significantly shape our decisions and relationships. These biases often lead to creating boundaries, categorising people as 'in' or 'out' based on preconceived norms.

Moreover, when individuals become aware of their biases or when they step outside the societal norms, they often experience shame, an intense emotional response. This connection between cognitive processes (like bias) and emotional experiences (like shame) is frequently overlooked. It reveals a profound link between our thoughts and feelings, challenging the traditional separation of head and heart.

Recognising this interconnection is crucial for understanding human behaviour more holistically. It's not enough to categorise thoughts and emotions separately; we must acknowledge that they influence each other in complex and significant ways. This understanding can lead to more empathy and inclusivity, as it allows for a more nuanced view of why people think and behave the way they do.

This interconnectedness also suggests that the path to self-awareness and personal growth involves integrating our cognitive and emotional experiences. By understanding how our thoughts influence our emotions and vice versa, we can work towards becoming more whole as individuals. We start to see that we are not divided selves, split between rationality and emotion, but complex beings with the capacity for a wide range of interconnected experiences.



The traditional Western view of separating head and heart, cognition and emotion, does not fully capture the complexity of human experience. As we continue to explore the intersections of how we think and feel, our biases and our emotional responses such as shame, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.