The second step in women rediscovering and reconnecting with their power is to identify their values. Often, values can seem like fleeting, intangible things. Companies proudly display their values in reception halls, but do individuals, particularly women, understand their own? I firmly believe that while women may share common values such as honesty, authenticity, courage, and genuineness, every woman also holds values distinct to her own heart.

Why is this self-reflection so essential for women? Because countless narratives, traditions, and societal enculturation dictates what women "should" value. For far too long, many have let their lives be shaped by the values of others, unknowingly sidelining their genuine desires.

I recall a time when, as a young woman, I yearned to travel and had decided not to consider marriage until at least 25. Yet, influenced by peer values, I married at 21. When later questioned how a different background might have influenced my choices, I quickly responded that academia would've been my pursuit. I realised my core values were learning, independence, travel, and the thrill of new experiences. I have distilled those to a personal trinity of values: courage, creativity, and connection.

While my courage has been lauded, I believe that sometimes bravery is the only option. Creativity finds its expression in my writing, a skill I cherish. Connection is about my engagement with people, be it through teaching, my time with the Salvation Army, or as a speaker and mentor.

But here's the thing: while many may resonate with my values, each woman has her own unique set, and that's perfectly okay. Recognising our values is a journey into the heart, soul, and very essence of our being. A woman who understands her values knows her true self, and that realisation is an

immense source of power. By defining our values, we establish our stand in this world - it’s akin to staking our territory, drawing lines in the sand, and

making our powerful stand known.

If you're wondering where to start, the internet offers numerous lists to kickstart your introspective journey. Glance through, and you'll find some that speak directly to your soul. From there, refine them, zeroing in on those that truly define you. After all, understanding one's core values provides clarity, like distilling the essence of one's being.

So, to all women out there: Understand that recognising your unique values isn't about adhering to what society, family, or peers dictate. It's about your innermost beliefs and desires. Identify your values, stand firm on them, embrace them, and celebrate the powerful woman you are.

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